Three Tips to Combat Food-Related Holiday Guilt
With the holidays in full-swing, many Americans are triggered by feelings of sadness, anxiety, and even lots of guilt about eating! Here are some of my best strategies to keep you stress- and guilt-free when it comes to food:
- Make an intentional choice. Before you show up for your event, make an active choice about how you want to handle food decisions. If you want to be open to following your taste buds and going up for seconds or thirds of the dish you’re doing the happy dance for, then tell yourself ahead of time that you will do so if you have the urge to do so.
- Commit to that choice after the fact. Your typical pattern may be to enjoy and then shame yourself, falling prey to judgmental thoughts about your self-control when you get dressed the next morning or catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror. That is the precise moment when I encourage you to catch yourself falling prey to this mean habit of yours and, instead, own the choice you made. Remind yourself: If I had a do-over button I wouldn’t have held back, because I wanted to let myself do the food happy dance. Last-night “me” had fun, and that was my plan.
- Use your experience to inform your plans for next time. Instead of using any negative feelings to orient your thoughts to what you “shouldn’t” have done last night, redirect to how you want to handle similar choices that come up in the future. Because this holiday season, you will face that choice again and again and again: at the office holiday event, at your in-laws’, and at the New Year’s party. Rather than get locked into past-oriented ruminations, simply ask yourself if you’d like to handle the situation differently next time. You might want to write your answer down in your journal, on a post-it note, or in the private description of the event on your online calendar. Write down what you want your future self to do, so you can refer to it in time.
To indulge or not to indulge isn’t nearly as important as choosing with intention and then being kind to yourself in the aftermath of that choice. You’re human. Live a little, see how it goes — and if it wasn’t for you, simply revise for next time. You might feel a little less guilt and a little more joy this holiday season as a result.